Summary of my growth in Feidu

Xiao Jingyi 2018.8

Hello everyone, I am Xiao Jingyi, a former student of the High School Affiliated to Shaanxi Normal University. I came to Uncle Ding (now called Feidu Education) when I was in the third grade of junior high school (less than a year before the 2015 high school entrance examination). At that time, I ranked among the bottom five out of 57 students in the class. Less than a year after coming to Teacher Ding, I was admitted to the Second Affiliated High School of Xi'an Jiaotong University with a total score of 614 points and ranked second in the class. In the second semester of the first year of high school, after many twists and turns, I returned to Uncle Ding to prepare for the college entrance examination. This year, I was admitted to Xi'an Shiyou University, a first-tier university, with a total score of 532 points. This score may not be very satisfactory in the eyes of many so-called top students, but for me, it is so precious to get such a score. Before this, I never thought that I could be admitted to high school or even university, and that my life would change so wonderfully.

In a few days, I will leave this place where I have grown up for nearly 4 years. Because some parents often ask me curiously, what is the difference between Feidu education and traditional school education, and what is good about Feidu? Therefore, I will talk about my understanding and feelings about Feidu education from the perspective of a student, as well as some differences between Feidu education and my experience of school education, so that later generations can have a preliminary understanding of this place.

New Arrival

The first time I came to Uncle Ding was during the summer vacation of the second year of junior high school. At that time, I was about to enter the third year of junior high school and face the high school entrance examination. At that time, my grades were terrible. As you can see, my English score in the college entrance examination was 138 points (out of 150), and I almost never passed English in junior high school. I was ranked in the bottom 5 of the class, and other subjects were also predictable. So it was impossible for me to get into high school at that time. However, the god of luck descended on me, and my fate changed amazingly from that summer vacation - I came to a magical place. Here, countless miracles of all sizes happened to me and other students.

When my parents first sent me here, I actually didn’t care and was very resistant. Because my grades were not good, my parents had enrolled me in various Mathematical Olympiad and English Olympiad cram schools and hired countless tutors since I was a child, but my grades didn’t change much. I was lucky to pass the exam occasionally. So I no longer had any hope for cram schools. I thought I could just hang around here for a few months, and when my parents found that my grades had not improved, they would move me to the next cram school, and I could just keep on living like this. Secondly, because it was summer vacation, I could finish my summer homework at home with the answers, watch TV, and secretly play with my phone without telling my parents, and I felt that such a life was very happy. So when I heard that I had to come to this place, live there, and study, I was actually quite unhappy.

At that time, I was a student who had been completely given up by our teachers. So for those of us who were "trash" in the class, we just lived day by day, never thinking about the high school entrance exam or the future, and we didn't dare to think about it. Even if we thought about it, we didn't know what to do, which only added to our worries.

My parents always thought that I was a heartless person who didn't care about my bad grades, and played all day long without paying attention to my studies. In fact, they didn't know that I was sometimes anxious, knowing that I couldn't go on like this, but more often, I felt despair, a despair that my own efforts would not help. Countless self-struggles and countless failures forced me to give up and numb myself, using self-comfort that others couldn't understand to face the contemptuous eyes of the outside world, because I knew that it was impossible for me to pass the high school entrance examination, so I began to numb myself.

My mental state was very bad at that time. I was depressed at home and at school. I thought about suicide and jumping off the building. The scars on the back of my hands that I cut with a knife did not disappear until I graduated from high school. I would like to add here that it was later at my uncle's place that he made us understand a truth. Of course, this surprised all the children at my uncle's place and secretly felt lucky. I was lucky that I came to my uncle's place in time.

My uncle later explained: "Many parents do not understand their children's shameless character. In fact, this is a kind of psychological self-regulation ability that human nature possesses. If a child can always maintain a clear consciousness and sensitive reaction in the frequent and repeated contempt, abuse, and humiliation, but at the same time cannot avoid such humiliation, the child's spirit will eventually collapse and become a so-called mental illness. Although the child's numbness is not a normal psychological state, it is a way to prevent further mental collapse. Humans are lucky. When God created humans, God gave humans a lot of self-improvement and adjustment abilities. Unfortunately, even so, there are still so many adults and children in China who are free from this state between psychological problems and mental illnesses without knowing it. If this numb intermediate state is further destroyed by stronger external stimuli, the child will be forced to become a real mental patient." Just like that, I came here in a very bad psychological and physical state. But what happened to me in the first week shocked me.

Day 1

On the first day, I walked into my uncle's room with despair and indifference. However, in just one day, when I went to bed that night, I couldn't suppress my excitement, and my heart rekindled hope for the future. Yes, just one day.

As soon as I entered the door, I heard the neat voices of greeting. It was not like the weak voices before class in school. The enthusiasm immediately infected me, and I fell in love with this place. Later I learned that the uncle required everyone to greet each other when they met. This is the beginning of everyone's interaction and it is also a basic courtesy to people, especially when children are facing their elders.

That day, I spent the whole day studying English. In less than two hours, I had learned the English phonetic symbols, and then I kept on studying English. It is impossible to learn too much knowledge in one day, but there were some obvious changes in my heart. I am a person who gets excited after a short time. Because I have never liked English, if I had to study English only for a day, I would definitely feel irritated and bored, and I would definitely not be able to stick to it. But that day, not only did I not feel bored, but I actually became interested in English.

In the past, my parents hired tutors to teach me phonetic symbols, but they were always unsuccessful. But never before, with my uncle, I was able to overcome the fear and disgust that accompanied me throughout my English learning process in just two hours. I have never read and memorized so seriously. The reason is really simple, because after using the learning method taught by my uncle, I learned every detail of what I learned, so my interest and confidence naturally arose.

After learning the phonetic symbols, I started learning spelling. It started at 10 a.m., lasting an hour and a half in the morning and three hours in the afternoon. By the evening, I could already read the words in the book according to the phonetic symbols, and I was quite fluent.

In the first week, I only studied English. I couldn't believe it until I went home on Friday. I could translate and understand an entire article by myself with the help of phonetic symbols and grammar books. In the past, I learned English by following the teacher and memorizing words and the pronunciation of the text. If I could remember, I would remember. If I couldn't remember, I would just follow the teacher and talk nonsense. By the end of the semester, I could only recite a few of the texts in a book, let alone understand the content. So when I finished studying the text according to my uncle's method for the first time and explained it to him, I didn't expect that what I said was almost correct.

This seemingly small success gave me great encouragement. With such joy, I continued to translate and recite. I memorized the text faster and faster. In the past, in school, I might need half an hour or even an hour to barely memorize a short dialogue of 50 or 60 words, because I neither understood its meaning nor its pronunciation. Now that I understand its meaning and can read every word, I find that memorizing the text is really easy.

More importantly, I didn’t like studying because of my poor grades. I didn’t understand the point of studying and why I should study. But after that week, I started to like studying. Although I sometimes complained a little about the hard work of studying, I gained more happiness and sense of achievement from studying because of my improved grades and abilities. This change was something I could never have imagined before.

When I was driving home, I was thinking about what I had experienced that week. I thought, if I could learn English, a subject that I used to hate the most, so quickly and so well, what about other subjects? Those subjects that I didn’t hate very much before, and even had some interest in and enjoyed learning, would I be able to learn them thoroughly and fall in love with them and love learning? Would my grades improve by leaps and bounds from now on? Would I have a hope of taking the high school entrance examination and imagine my future? My parents would not be disappointed with my studies, and I would not be discouraged by my grades. As it turned out, all my questions at that time were solved one by one in my subsequent studies.

math

In addition to English, the subject I took the most tutoring lessons in my childhood was mathematics. After learning English for a while at my uncle's place, I started to learn mathematics. Here, it is not like in school and many tutoring classes, where the teacher lectures on the stage and the students listen below. In school, especially in ordinary classes, the teacher lectures on the stage, and there are actually very few students who actually listen to the class. Most people either chat, sleep, play with their phones, read novels, or eat. Because it is impossible for the teacher to take care of all the students, and many teachers are on the stage to teach their own things, only paying attention to the so-called good students that the teachers like, and not paying much attention to most students. So it is conceivable that many people's grades are naturally not very good.

But it is different here. All the courses are completed by the children themselves. The uncle only taught us how to read books and how to study by ourselves. He answered your questions when you had them and checked whether our learning tasks were completed. When I started to learn mathematics, my uncle took a tutorial book and told me how to read books and how to study by myself. At that time, I suddenly felt that learning was such a simple thing. At the same time, I also understood why people should study. In the past, studying was just for exams and to satisfy parents, so I had no interest in studying actively. But with my uncle, I understood that learning is to enrich myself and to have a good future.

Since then, with the help of my uncle, I have developed a great interest and enthusiasm for mathematics, physics, and chemistry. The unit test scores have also increased from 50 to 60 points at the beginning to 80 to 90 points (out of 100). The following month, I returned to school to take the midterm exam, and my English and mathematics scores ranked third and eleventh in the class respectively. I was shocked by the huge change in my grades.

episode

At the end of the first semester of the third year of junior high school, my parents wanted me to go back to school for some reasons and didn’t want me to stay here any longer. In the past, I never dared to tell my parents my true thoughts and feelings, and they arranged everything for me. I had no way of judging whether my parents’ arrangements were good or bad for me.

Just like when I was in primary school and going to junior high school, my father wanted me to go to the Affiliated High School of Shaanxi Normal University, because it was one of the best schools in our area, one of the so-called top five famous schools, and he thought it would bring him honor. So even though my grades were not good enough to go to that school, he still used money and connections to send me to the school.

Because I didn’t get into the school through legitimate means, I couldn’t keep up with my classmates’ learning progress, and I couldn’t speak when my classmates asked about my test scores. I felt inferior and ashamed. I felt really bad during those years in school. My academic performance was not good, and our school was near a place where local wealthy people gathered. Many students spent money lavishly and had many bad habits, which led to the fact that my relationship with my classmates was not harmonious. In addition, the teachers also favored students who were good at studying or had rich families. So for a long time, I was like a mute after I arrived at school. I basically didn’t speak or communicate with others.

But my parents never knew how I felt. They were proud that their daughter could study in one of the top five universities, and they felt proud, but they didn't know my pain. There was a time when I felt like I was going crazy. But because of my cowardice and low self-esteem, I never told my parents about this.

At my uncle's place, I gradually became cheerful and confident. The books, articles and stories he made us read and told me gradually gave me some ability to judge right from wrong. I know that I am happy here every day. Because before, I didn't even know whether I was in pain or happiness. I was in pain every day, but I still consoled myself by playing with my phone or reading novels: "Look, isn't this good?" I was so confused and dazed.

In Feidu, I can clearly see my changes and progress. I used to write a diary, and I expressed my loneliness and anger in this way. Later, I compared my previous diary with the one I wrote after coming here, and I found that my previous despair and discouragement were gone, and I became cheerful and full of hope. Now, with the guidance of my uncle, I am willing to speak out my thoughts and try to adjust my mentality to get rid of this emotion instead of being depressed.

So when I knew that my parents didn't want me to stay here any longer, I wrote a letter to them, telling them about the changes that had happened to me here and that I wanted to continue to study and live here. I had attended many cram schools before, but this was the only place that made me fall in love with learning and want to stay here, where I could see the changes in myself every day and where I was willing to get along with these kind, friendly and enthusiastic people. Here, my heart was happy and full of hope. Finally, they accepted my idea and agreed to let me continue to study with my uncle.

Work and rest

We get up at 6:30 every morning and then have 5 minutes to wash up. My uncle told us that if a person is procrastinating and lazy in his behavior, it reflects that he must be procrastinating and lazy in his heart. So my uncle asked us to be neat and tidy no matter what we do. Once you develop a habit, you will find that your work efficiency has improved a lot.

After washing up, we started to stand in the stance. This has a great impact on our bodies. After a period of time, everyone's body has become much healthier and stronger. After standing in the stance, it is our breakfast time. Here, the daily schedule is fixed, and a fixed schedule is very good for the human body. I used to have an irregular schedule at school. I often skipped breakfast, didn't eat much for lunch and dinner, didn't sleep at noon, and stayed up late at night playing with my phone. As a result, I was drowsy every day, couldn't lift my spirits, and often fell asleep in class.

After breakfast, we started the first round of study at 7:30. The study time is one and a half hours, and then we rest for half an hour. What is different from school is that teachers in school are always used to extending the class time, thinking that we can learn more. In fact, it is not the case. Every day when the teacher delays the class, we students are very unhappy and will not listen carefully. We always hope that the teacher can finish the get out of class quickly. We are not focused and can't listen at all. In the end, we don't rest well, and we don't learn well. Time is wasted.

The uncle here never allows us to stay late. He tells us to rest well when we have a break and study well when we have time. Otherwise, in order to study for 5 more minutes, we will not have the energy to study well for the next hour and a half. In fact, our break time is not like in school, where everyone chats and hangs around. We spend our break time reading books, extracurricular books. The uncle said that reading is actually learning Chinese, and in the process of reading, we can improve our reading and thinking abilities. So our break time is actually also learning, and we learn in a very relaxed way.

After lunch at 12 noon, we will take a nap until 2 pm. After getting up, it is our meditation time. My uncle said that meditation can improve and regulate our body and improve our wisdom. Because of meditation, I have not been sick in the third year of junior high school. I used to have some minor health problems. I often had stomachaches for no reason. My parents took me to do B-ultrasound but couldn’t find out what the problem was. They could only prepare some painkillers for me to take when I couldn’t stand it. Including the colds and coughs that I often had before, they have not appeared again after I insisted on meditating every day. And I used to have severe motion sickness. Every time I went out to travel with my parents, I had almost no time and energy to appreciate the scenery along the way. I felt nauseous and wanted to vomit as soon as I got on the car. Sometimes taking motion sickness medicine in advance didn’t work. Because of the discomfort, I had no appetite for many local delicacies and missed a lot of things. But now, I can finally enjoy the scenery and eat a lot of delicious food on the car, and fully enjoy the fun of traveling.

The most important thing is that when I was in the second grade of junior high school, I had a wart with a diameter of 6 or 7 mm on the back of my left hand. This thing could not go away naturally. However, through the years of meditation and conditioning my body at my uncle's place, by the time I left here after the college entrance examination, the wart on the back of my hand had disappeared, leaving only a little pigmentation.

The meditation lasts for one and a half hours, and it is actually very painful. But all the children here like meditation very much, because we can clearly feel the physical changes brought by meditation, and it can make our bodies better and better. Meditation also exercises one's willpower. My uncle said that if you can persist in meditation even when it hurts, then you can also persist in studying. These things are connected.

When we meditate, we also read some articles about gods and Buddhas, and about the principles of life. Not only do we read, but after reading, we also take turns to talk about our own experiences and gains. This is also to exercise our ability to analyze, understand and express, and at the same time, we also learn a lot of principles of dealing with people and the standards of judging right and wrong. It can be said that it kills two birds with one stone.

Because of learning Buddhism, my heart has also changed a lot. I used to have thoughts of jumping off a building or committing suicide, but because of learning Buddhism, I realized that this was wrong. Because of learning Buddhism and my increasingly happy mood, I quickly abandoned this thought, and I also knew that no matter what happened in the future, I would never have such thoughts again. I know about karma and that people should be kind. I used to think that those tiny lives, such as insects, were insignificant, but now I know that I should cherish life, whether it is someone else's or my own. So I will not kill, lie, or curse.

I understand that everything that happens around us is arranged by gods and Buddhas, so I will not complain about what happens to us, nor will I be too sad or unbearable because of these difficulties. No matter what happens, we can accept it calmly. Therefore, learning during this period of time is very important for our psychological changes.

We have an hour every day to go out and play basketball, run, etc. At the beginning, my parents were still worried about my physical education scores in the high school entrance examination if I stayed here all the time and didn't participate in the school's daily physical training. In fact, their worries were all unnecessary. We adjust our bodies during meditation, and we exercise by standing and doing exercises every day, so the basic physical fitness of the children here is very good. When I took the physical education high school entrance examination, I only exercised the items to be tested a week before the exam. As a result, I passed all the items in the exam with full marks, which was much better than those classmates in our class who participated in school training every day.

Whenever we go out for activities, we play basketball or other games. Of course, some people don't play well. But we never stop playing with them just because they don't play well or think they are not good enough. We patiently teach them if they don't know how to play, and we share our experience with them if they don't play well, so that everyone is happy.

Unlike in school, if someone has poor skills, no one wants to be in the same group with her, and once she loses, all the mistakes will be piled on her head. It seems that the classmate can't do anything and is useless, and often makes the classmate feel uncomfortable. Everyone here understands that everyone has their own strengths. Some people may not be good at sports, but they may be particularly talented in painting. If you laugh at others in this aspect, others can also laugh at you in the aspect you are not good at. Respect and tolerance are relative, so we never laugh at or despise others. And my uncle taught us to learn to reflect on our mistakes, not to shirk responsibility, and not to make excuses.

Many things seem to happen due to external reasons, but my uncle told us that there must be something you did wrong, otherwise it would not happen around you. Even if some people often make mistakes or make trouble, they cannot always make mistakes. It is possible that we are wrong too. We cannot wrongly accuse someone for no reason. No one likes to be wronged and wronged. So no matter what happens here, my uncle will investigate the cause before punishing someone.

Uncle never wrongly accuses a child, but he also never lets any child off for his wrong behavior. We also learned to self-reflect in this process. All of us freshmen have to go through a process after arriving here, which is to practice the correct way to hold chopsticks. Uncle said that as long as the children persist in correcting their mistakes, they will also be able to persist in their studies. If they have no patience and perseverance in such small matters, they will not have good grades in their studies.

When we eat, we should not leave any food, smack our lips, and hold the bowl with our hands, which means that the bowl will be stable in the future. We should not cross our legs when sitting, and we should hold our heads high and chest out when walking. We should not sit or stand in an untidy manner.

Many parents may think that we have too many rules here, but these are actually excellent things in Chinese tradition. Uncle said that a person's inner psychology can be reflected in his behavior, and similarly, changing a person's behavior can also change his heart. So uncle attaches great importance to the details of our behavior, which is why uncle can make a child change dramatically. Because our changes start from all aspects and many details of a child.

After dinner, we still have 3 hours of study time. Some of our children's parents see us happy all day and always think that we are very relaxed here, as if we are playing every day. What an ignorant idea. Our happiness is based on the knowledge we have learned and on being tired and happy. It has nothing to do with the intensity of study. In fact, our study time is very long and the intensity is very high. We have 9-10 hours of pure study time every day, which does not include the time we discuss reading experience and read by ourselves.

At the same time, our study is different from the lazy study in school. We are highly focused during the study time, gaining something every minute and every second, not doing useless work, and the study efficiency is very high. Therefore, we are very tired after studying each unit, so it is necessary to have a full rest during the study interval.

Because our children here have high learning efficiency, even though I was under pressure from the middle school entrance exam and the college entrance exam, I never stayed up all night during the exam. During the nearly 4 years I was with my uncle, I got up at 6:30 every morning and went to bed on time at 11 o'clock at night. Many of our classmates at school had white hair at a young age due to the pressure of study and long-term staying up late. But I not only didn't have a single white hair, but also kept my waist-length hair during this period. Many of our classmates were envious when they saw me.

emotion

I mentioned before that my parents asked me to go back to school in the second semester of the third year of junior high school. Later, I wrote a letter to my parents and they agreed to my idea. In the letter, I told my parents about some of the situations I felt here and some changes in myself.

First, after I came here, I had goals in both study and life. Here, some books I read and some truths taught by my uncle gave me motivation to move forward and let me see hope in my life.

Second, I gave my parents an example of the feelings I experienced here. In school, students are all scheming against each other, and there is little trust in each other. Because I haven't been back to school for a long time, every time I go back, I am shocked by the changes in the class. In the first and second grades of junior high school, I had a good relationship with several girls, and we were all so-called good sisters. But when I went back one time, I suddenly found that they all began to exclude one person, and everyone was divided into different groups. Whenever I contacted one of the groups, they all told me not to pay attention to them, not to play with those people, and they were so and so. Everyone was saying bad things about the other group behind their backs.

I really don't like this kind of situation. Before, everyone was still good friends, but suddenly because of some strange reasons (such as she was fat, or had a bad character, but in fact they couldn't say what was wrong with them), they started to attack and exclude each other. I still remember an incident that happened when I was in the second grade of junior high school. It was after an exam. A girl in the class performed well in that exam and was the first in our class. As a result, after class, I suddenly found that girl sitting alone in the corridor crying. When I asked her why, she said that her good friend told her that because you did too well in the exam, she didn't want to play with you. But here with my uncle, I have never encountered this situation. Everyone is like a big family, very harmonious, everyone trusts each other and treats each other sincerely.

In school, teachers prefer students who are good at studying. Good things are arranged for students who are good at studying. Those of us who are poor at studying are basically not paid attention to. And once something bad happens, it is all our fault. For example, there is a student in our class who has poor academic performance, but he loves to be naughty. Once the water dispenser in the class broke. The head teacher began to investigate which student broke it. In fact, no one knew who broke it this time, but almost everyone, including the head teacher, believed that he broke the water dispenser. No one listened to the student's defense. Another time, during class, the teacher asked a student to answer a question. The student didn't know, and just said: "Teacher, I..." The teacher didn't hear it clearly, and thought he was saying bad things about her, and started to scold the student on the podium. The student ran out of the classroom in anger. The teacher continued to say that he had a bad character. Think about it, in such an environment, can we stay happy?

But here, the uncle treats everyone equally and is absolutely fair to everyone. In this way, when encountering something, everyone knows why they can participate and why they cannot participate. The uncle always explains this principle to everyone. Every time we divide things, everyone is the same. No one will give less or no money just because you do something wrong or study poorly.

I remember one time, we kept a good list (everyone wrote down the work they did, the purpose was to encourage everyone to find more problems and work actively. In the end, according to how much work everyone did, the uncle would give us a certain amount of reward.), Jingjing, Wenwen and I did the most work, and the uncle said he would give us a small reward. But a week or two after that, Jingjing and I were lazy and did not record what we had done. Uncle found out and scolded us. Jingjing and I thought that the uncle would not reward us for our mistakes this time, but later when it was time for the reward, the uncle still gave us the reward as usual. The uncle said that the mistake was this time, not the last time, and the reward should still be given last time. We can often experience what it means to truly distinguish between rewards and punishments.

This state makes me feel very comfortable, because everyone is the same. In school, unfair treatment by teachers often makes us feel resentful, so we don’t like the teacher, don’t listen to the teacher’s lectures, and affect our enthusiasm and grades in learning. But because of the uncle’s fair treatment, everyone is very happy, and their studies will not be affected by emotional reasons. This atmosphere and living environment make me feel very relaxed. I don’t have to worry about whether my "good friend" is saying bad things about me behind my back, what rumors are coming out, and what I should do. Or I have to worry about this thing missing, and who borrowed that thing and didn’t return it to me. We are classmates, but we are on guard against each other like enemies every day.

But here, this kind of thing has never happened. Everyone is very friendly and peaceful. Although I once quarreled with a classmate over a small matter, we soon realized our mistakes and apologized to each other. After this incident, my relationship with that classmate became better. Of course, I was beaten by the uncle afterwards.

Although we sometimes have some behaviors that others don’t like or are not used to, we will not secretly say bad things behind their backs or tell tales to teachers like we did in school. Let the teacher teach them a lesson while we watch the fun from the side. Here, we will openly point out their mistakes to the uncle in front of their classmates and let the uncle correct them. Because we all know that the other party points out their mistakes to the uncle not to laugh at them, but sincerely hopes that they can correct their mistakes and become better for their own good. The uncle told us that the method to judge whether a person is telling tales or reporting a situation properly is very simple: is this report for the good of others or for venting one’s anger!

I think the relationship here is a normal relationship between classmates and friends. It is so pure and simple. We can laugh, cry, share delicious food and fun things together. There is no pressure on interpersonal communication. Because I feel happy and feel the real friendship here, I don’t want to go back to the school environment. I often need to go back to school to take exams or get some study materials. Through my former classmates and the phenomena I observed when I was with them, I can clearly find my previous bad state and my current changes.

For example, when I went out with my classmates, the first stop was a cosmetics store. They were discussing this and that in the store. One girl even put on makeup with trial products in the store. I felt very uncomfortable at the time because I felt that at our age, we should not spend too much money and effort on these things.

But when I went out with my classmates from Feidu, we would not go to such stores. My uncle taught us that all expenses must be shared, and there was no concept of who would pay. Moreover, we went to very ordinary small stores and would not spend money recklessly. All the food we bought was shared equally, so we felt it was fair, and everyone felt comfortable and happy when we went out to play.

Because our pocket money now comes from our parents, and the situation where you treat me this time and I treat you next time is actually very easy to cause conflicts. It is easy to have unfair thoughts. But when I go out with my classmates at school, they go to very expensive places and spend money lavishly. Obviously we are all children, but we rush to pay the bill and treat each other like adults in the workplace. We have been infected with many bad social trends.

Students nowadays have made swearing a catchphrase, and they will throw out a few swear words whenever they have nothing to do. In fact, they don’t mean to curse anyone, they just think it’s cool and trendy, as if they can’t express their inner feelings without saying it. I used to be like them, but now I don’t say those bad words anymore. But because of this, every time I am among them, I feel uncomfortable when I hear them swearing.

In these short three and a half years, I feel that I have learned countless times more than what I learned in the past ten years. Not only did I learn how to learn, I also learned how to reflect, how to regulate my emotions, and what is the true outlook on life and values. I also learned the correct way for people to get along with each other - honesty, and what is a normal and pure interpersonal relationship. Under such circumstances, how could I want to go back to the bad state I was in before?

Extracurricular activities and the desire to show off and the sense of responsibility

Here, we don't just study, we have a lot of spare time. We play basketball and badminton during the time we go out. We also draw, do handicrafts or practice musical instruments during our rest time. And my uncle also taught us how to quickly master the skills of drawing or calligraphy. So during the time I came to my uncle, not only did my academic performance improve by leaps and bounds, but I also learned a lot of practical life skills.

Except for the uncle and a cooking auntie, there are no other teachers or logistics staff here. So here, each of us is not only a student, but also a teacher, a cook, a maintenance worker, etc. And in the process, I learned not only specific skills and abilities, but also a correct way of thinking and mental state.

At first, I was very eager to show off. When I helped my uncle to tutor other students, the purpose of explaining the questions to them was not to make them understand, but to show how good I was, so I often got half the result with twice the effort. At the same time, my sense of responsibility was not strong enough, and I did not supervise and check the learning content assigned to them in time. As a result, when my uncle checked, he found that the learning progress and quality of the children I was responsible for were problematic. Fortunately, my uncle checked in time to avoid the situation where other students' academic performance declined.

For a while, we wanted to change the taste of the food cooked by auntie because we ate too much, so uncle decided to let us cook dinner by ourselves, but put forward a requirement that it would not delay our study time. In fact, this requirement is not simple, we must cook well and not take up study time, so we must develop the habit of improving cooking (work) efficiency.

Uncle told us that we can actually do it. This is the same as what we learn here. We need to have good grades but not prolong our study time or stay up late. We need to be efficient in everything we do instead of simply prolonging our work or study time. Uncle also discovered my laziness, which led to my failure to clean the kitchen within the stipulated time. After continuous training, I changed my previous lazy state at work.

Sometimes when something here is broken, the uncle will take us to repair it ourselves. For me, this process not only made me realize the use of many tools and enhanced my ability to live independently, but more importantly, the uncle taught me the correct way of thinking. For example, I am impatient. In the past, I never read the instructions before using items. I just started to fix them. As a result, I made a mess of things. The uncle told me that when doing anything, don't be anxious, you must think first, think clearly about the whole process, use your brain more and do less. It can save a lot of energy and time. Well, in fact, I understood later that work and study are interlinked. These principles were repeatedly emphasized to us by the uncle when we were studying and supervised us to do them.

So for me, every minute and every second here, I am learning, correcting the bad parts of my character, getting rid of those bad mentalities, and constantly improving myself and perfecting my abilities.

cell phone

I used to like playing with my phone and reading novels, and I often stayed up late to work hard. After I came to my uncle, he told us that this was a very bad habit and we must give up the addiction to mobile phones.

But the method my uncle used was completely different from my parents. My parents didn’t want me to play with my phone before, so they would confiscate my phone, but the result was that I wanted to play with my phone even more, and I tried every possible way to get my phone back, and in the process I had a battle of wits with my parents. I would often rummage through the boxes and cabinets at home to find my phone when they weren’t paying attention, and after finding it, I would not make a fuss, but play with it secretly, and then put the phone back to its original place after playing, pretending that I didn’t know where my phone was at all. When doing homework, I would also hide my phone under the books, play with it secretly when the parents were not around, and hide it as soon as the parents came, just like a thief. Alas, sometimes I understand that playing with my phone is not good, and I tell my parents that I will not play with it anymore, but after a while, I can’t help it, and I will play with it secretly behind my parents’ backs. In the process, the frustration in my heart accumulates more and more.

But uncle is not like this. Uncle told us that a person can only overcome dependence (addiction) on anything from two aspects to completely solve the problem. The same is true for solving problems such as mobile phone and game addiction. 1. You must slowly and uninterruptedly cultivate your self-control. Don't think about quitting your mobile phone all at once, but make progress every day. For example, if you used to play until 12 o'clock in the evening, you can control yourself and stop playing at 11:30 today, which is a kind of progress. Or set a rule for yourself, stick to one hour without playing with your mobile phone today, and stick to two hours tomorrow. 2. Replace the habit of playing with your mobile phone (or the habit of playing games, watching videos, etc.) with a good habit. In this way, we slowly get rid of the addiction to playing with mobile phones, and because the goals set each time are very simple, and because we have the good habit of reading to replace this bad habit when we want to play with our mobile phones, we can stick to it, and the sense of accomplishment in our hearts is getting stronger and stronger!

Not only playing with mobile phones, but also using uncle's methods, we have overcome many problems, such as sleeping late and lack of concentration. Uncle cultivated our self-control and self-confidence by solving and improving these specific things. Here, the feelings and changes that uncle brought us, the love and gratitude for this place and uncle in our hearts, can't be expressed in any words. Uncle gave me a new life and a brand new and hopeful life path. I still remember that my head teacher said to me when I graduated from junior high school, "I think you have changed. Compared with before, you now know what you want." I am really grateful to uncle and thankful for coming to this place.

Belief

Many parents are confused, why can we have such a big change here? My summary depends on two reasons. The first reason is what I said before, here, we have a good, fair and happy environment. Uncle said that now the children in the school have different degrees of mental problems. Maybe many people think that what uncle said is too absolute, how can all of them have mental problems? In fact, the longer I spend with uncle, the more I can understand his wisdom and the depth of his thoughts.

In our society, in fact, the general public has low quality. Parents should ask themselves, do you really know what mental problems are? Do you really know what the standard of mental illness is? People may not even know the most basic of what mental illness is, so how can they identify mental illness? How can they arbitrarily say that they have no mental problems? Imagine if a piece of land, whether it is air, soil, or water, is polluted, can healthy trees grow on this land?

No matter how good the saplings were before, once they come into contact with toxic water and soil, they will inevitably be polluted. There is really something wrong with the overall environment of Chinese society, but many of us don’t even know what the problem is, and of course we don’t know that there is something wrong with society. (Sorry, what I said here is a bit profound, and some people may not understand it. Hey, not everyone understands my thinking, so some parents cannot understand our thinking either. This is actually the sadness of Chinese society)

As the saying goes, it takes three years to learn good things and three days to learn bad things. The society is full of chaos now. Schools are no longer the cradles that people imagine. It’s just that parents are not in it, so they don’t know it. Therefore, the environment is very important for a person’s growth. The unique and good environment here allows children to study simply and happily, and the gradual health of body and mind is also an inevitable result.

Another thing is faith. If I were to ask what my biggest gain was during the three years I spent with my uncle, I would say it was not the excellent grades, nor the specific skills and ways of thinking, but faith, the true faith in gods and Buddhas!

When my uncle first told us stories about gods, Buddhas, karma, etc., I was skeptical because no one in my family had any faith, we were all atheists, and temples and Taoist temples were just tourist attractions to me.

But later, as I read more articles and saw some miraculous experiences that happened to us, I gradually understood that gods and Buddhas really exist, and that cause and effect does exist.

Among the stories we read, there are a few sentences that impressed me deeply. "I have believed in Buddha for many years, and I am very happy with the Buddha's teachings in my heart. I follow the Buddha's teachings to be a good person. If I find out when I die that everything the Buddha taught me does not exist at all, what have I lost in this life?"; "When you die, if you find that the Buddha's teachings are true, and there are six realms of reincarnation and beyond the six realms of Buddha, what will you gain?"

Because I believe in gods and Buddhas, I have no fear in my heart. After the college entrance examination, I went to Japan with my parents. On the way, the plane encountered strong winds and was very bumpy. When landing, due to the strong wind on the ground, the plane landed three times but still did not land. Everyone on the plane could feel the weightlessness between the rise and fall of the plane. Afterwards, when my parents talked about their fear at the time, I found that I had no fear in my heart, but only peace. Because I firmly believe that the gods and Buddhas I believe in will definitely protect me.

Because I believe in gods and Buddhas, I have a fear in my heart. There are gods above us, and there are eyes watching our every move. I no longer have the thought of committing suicide, because gods and Buddhas say that suicide is also killing, and it is also a sin. I will not hurt others, or say bad things about others, or do things that harm others and benefit myself. Because I know that everything will be repaid by myself.

Here, miracles happen to each of our children. It has become a part of our lives, allowing us to look forward to tomorrow and become a kind, sincere and tolerant person.

Backsliding

Human society is a huge dye vat. No matter who enters it, they will eventually be dyed with the same color - sin.

Evil red.

After graduating from junior high school, my parents let me go back to school for high school, although I was very reluctant. During the year at my uncle's place, I went from being a social scum to a person who loves learning and life. I thought I could maintain my previous state in the school environment, but fantasy is always beautiful, but after all, it is illusory. In just a few months after the start of school, I couldn't resist the temptation of the colorful school and returned to the drowsy days before. Every day, I played with my mobile phone endlessly and unrestrainedly and read some vulgar love novels. I could no longer focus on studying. My grades quickly plummeted.

Although my condition declined rapidly during that half year, I still kept some principles because of my uncle's teaching. I think this is why I was able to come back to my uncle and stay for two and a half years. For example, in this era where early love has become fashionable, everyone thinks that early love is normal. Even my grandmother in her 70s sometimes asks me if I have a boyfriend. But I have never thought about this. There is also swearing and using dirty words. I have repeatedly advised the girls at the same table not to use dirty words anymore, because it is not elegant and will lose their own blessings, but it is useless. For them, this has become a language engraved in their bones, and they feel uncomfortable if they don't say it for an hour. Some classmates smoke, drink, go to black Internet cafes or KTVs, and I have stopped these messy behaviors and places. My uncle said that we should do what we should do at our age. At our age, it is the best time to enrich ourselves and learn knowledge. Early love is not something we should do. Of course, we can do what my uncle says because he has given us nobler life goals and ideas, so that those low-level interests can no longer influence our thoughts and behaviors.

I am also very grateful for the time I spent back at school, because it made me understand once again the differences between myself and my classmates, and made me more grateful and understand what the time I spent with my uncle meant to my life.

Safety

Nowadays, a large number of people are missing in China every day, and most of the victims are women. So my uncle taught us to pay attention to safety issues.

One time, I went out with two girls during the holiday. As the distance was far, we chose to take an electric tricycle to the destination. After getting on the car, the three of us were so focused on chatting that we didn't notice that the car had gradually deviated from the main road. By the time we reacted, we were surrounded by unfamiliar scenery and there were few people.

Everyone said that if things didn't look right, just jump out of the car. Later we found out that the driver had chosen a slightly remote road to avoid rush hour. Fortunately, it was just a false alarm, but it also proved the importance of paying attention to safety when you go out. After my uncle learned about this, he strictly ordered us not to go out alone without an adult. Even when we went out to buy groceries at my uncle's place, we had to go with at least three people for a short 100-meter walk.

My uncle also asked our parents to send us girls to the door of his place and never let us take the elevator alone to avoid any accidents. My uncle always told us: Zhuge Liang was cautious throughout his life, and he did not make big mistakes! That's because this kind of mistake is something that no one can afford!

On the contrary, my classmates in school don't pay much attention to this issue. I often see some girls sitting on a motorcycle at will. Putting aside the issue of intimacy between men and women, the safety of motorcycles is difficult to guarantee, but they don't care. It is not difficult to understand why many female students disappear inexplicably in today's society.

My uncle said that girls must love themselves and that there are some things they cannot and dare not touch. Once, a girl in the first grade of junior high school came to our school. She stayed here for only a short week. Before coming to us, she had been away from home for a long time, working in a bar outside and sleeping at her friend's house at night. We saw her writing many names on the draft paper, with sweet words next to them. According to her, they were all her boyfriends. My uncle's school is a boarding school, and she only goes home on weekends.

When she came back the second week, we saw kiss marks on her neck. Her parents said that she couldn't stand the loneliness on the weekends, so she ran away from home secretly and didn't come back all night. Just like that, she left us, but she also taught us a profound lesson. She was originally a smart and lovely girl who loved history. If she could stay with her uncle, the facts of countless students proved that she would have a bright future. Unfortunately, she made a mistake too early, and she missed a place that could change her life.

We also asked the uncle why this child was rejected, while so many children with more problems were kept by the uncle and their lives were changed. The uncle explained: A girl at this age can make any mistakes, but she must not make the mistake of eating forbidden fruit at the age of 12. Once she has tasted this thing, it is difficult for children of this age to be interested in other things, just like a person's dependence on drugs, it is difficult to quit. From then on, we understood the profound truth of the uncle's words "do the right thing at the right time."

Now is a great time for us to constantly enrich ourselves and exercise ourselves. If we can't stand the temptations of all kinds of things and go down the road of no return, wouldn't it be a pity to waste this precious human life. Isn't it the same for those drug addicts? At first, they were just curious and indulged themselves, but in the end they were deeply trapped and couldn't extricate themselves.

My uncle said that every great man has gone through a difficult process since childhood, gradually honing his perseverance and self-control. People must have self-control to resist temptation.

complacent

When I returned to my uncle's house again, I was no longer the little girl with low self-esteem because of his previous education. I was full of confidence in my abilities. But confidence went too far and became complacency.

Every week, each of our children writes news about what happened this week or what they have learned, etc. This is not only to let parents know about their children's life and study here, but also to train the children's writing skills. Initially, since everyone's news articles were handwritten, there was one person responsible for collecting, summarizing, and recording all the news on the computer every week.

One time, the kid who was in charge of collecting news that week had to go back to school for an exam and had to go home on Thursday and Friday. News was usually handed in on Wednesday and Thursday and posted online on Friday. So I took the initiative to ask everyone to hand over the news of the week to the kid in charge of the next week. I thought that this would allow us to catch up with the news posting schedule, and I was also very proud of myself for handling the matter properly.

Later, my uncle found out about this and severely reprimanded me. I realized that I did this without considering the feelings of the classmate who was responsible for handling the news. My uncle asked me to imagine that something that was originally arranged for me was taken away by others for no reason. How would you feel? At first, I was still stubborn and said that I would feel relieved because I saved a thing. But under the guidance of my uncle, after thinking about it from another perspective, I realized that no one would be happy about this kind of thing. Saying that is actually a self-deceiving reason. Because such things cannot be appealed to teachers in school, we have developed such a habit. My uncle said that people are not actually very advanced creatures, and people have many bad roots. It takes a long time to correct a problem, and it may recur in the future. Learning bad things is just a matter of a moment. So whenever we are in pain because we can't correct our problems or find that we have made the same mistakes again, my uncle will comfort us not to give up and must keep working hard. He also teaches us to compare with our past to discover our progress and thus strengthen our confidence in changing our mistakes.

responsibility

A few months before my high school entrance exam, my uncle moved out of the small house with three bedrooms and two living rooms and moved to a bigger place to continue running the school. A bigger place means more things to do. I have a strong reaction ability and learn things very quickly, so my uncle likes to let me do many things. When I first started doing things, I was full of enthusiasm and could handle things quickly, and the quality was guaranteed. But later, as I kept repeating the same thing, I gradually felt bored and wanted to do something interesting and new. For this reason, the tasks assigned to me by my uncle were sometimes ignored by me.

I remember that period of time, my uncle gave me the job of publishing the news every week. At the same time, two girls in the school proposed the idea of decorating the classroom walls. My uncle agreed, so they often got together to discuss this matter. At that time, I had been responsible for publishing the news for a while, and I was already tired of this boring and time-consuming task. So, I often got close to those two classmates and used the excuse of helping them to give suggestions to avoid my own tasks. Usually, if my uncle assigned any work to other children, I would rely on my age and strong ability to "help" them, but in fact I took their work but ignored my own work.

Of course, how could I hide my little trick from my uncle's sharp eyes? So one week, when I used the excuse of delaying the release of news, my uncle gave me a lesson. At the same time, my uncle also handed over the news release work that I was responsible for to other students. At first, I was happy that I could finally get rid of this job, but later, a sense of being ignored and insignificant occupied my heart. At this time, I gradually understood the feelings of those students whose jobs I took away. In this way, my uncle made me understand a series of mistakes I made.

Similar things happened many times. When I came to my uncle's house in the third year of junior high school, I was not too old, and the older brothers and sisters above me took care of everything. But when I came back in high school, I became the older sister of many younger sisters. My uncle also entrusted many things to me. But at that time, I was lazy and didn't want to worry about it. I didn't want to do troublesome things.

So I pretended not to see many things I saw, such as the food in the storage room was about to go bad, and the things in the warehouse were piled up in a mess. I knew these things, but I kept silent to avoid labor and hardship. For this, my uncle scolded me many times. My uncle said, "This shows that you are too selfish and you need to get rid of this heart." Later, the oldest sister in our family went abroad, and I became the main person in charge of these things. Later, in the process of continuous work and taking on more and more things, I finally understood how proud and pleasant it is to be needed by others. From then on, I truly understood the meaning of the word responsibility.

Good thoughts, actions and heart

In today's schools and in today's society, we are gradually getting used to pretending. Everyone should have had this experience: you are cursing someone in your heart, but when you meet, you are arm in arm, smiling, as if the two of you have a very good relationship. At the beginning, this is just a disguise, the purpose is to gain benefits from the other party. You may feel guilty or awkward at the beginning, but later, it becomes a habit, thinking that this is your true inner thoughts. This is true for both adults and children. My uncle said that this is a typical split personality, and the entire Chinese society is suffering from this disease.

But after spending a long time with my uncle, we gradually learned to analyze our own hearts, to discover our true thoughts and feelings, and to have the courage to admit them (because many times, in order to escape our inner guilt, we will instinctively

To deny it, people are all looking for comfort, so I think it is harder to admit than to discover), change it. Because sometimes many things seem to be the same on the surface, but if you look deep into your heart, you will find that at that moment, you have so many bad thoughts. But the uncle can find out our true thoughts very accurately and timely, and correct our bad thoughts in time. At the beginning, I didn't know, thinking that as long as I pay attention to behavioral problems and avoid problems, it will be fine. For example, I am a person who loves to eat, and I can't help wanting to eat more when I encounter delicious food. So when I get food, I will unconsciously get more delicious food, and in order to reflect fairness, other people will also get more accordingly. The uncle quickly discovered and corrected my behavior. After that, I will consciously control my behavior, hoping not to have the same problem again, so as not to be discovered by the uncle.

But the reality was not what I wanted. Despite paying attention to this problem, the same mistake kept happening. After a few times, I gradually lost my patience and asked my uncle for advice. My uncle told me that correcting mistakes should be done from the heart. If you don't completely correct your selfish thoughts, it's useless to just correct your behavior. As long as you are a little lax, your true thoughts will be exposed. And the purpose of correcting mistakes is to prevent my uncle from finding out, not to truly improve myself, so there will be no big changes.

My uncle told me that I should learn to reflect on my inner thoughts at all times and stop any bad thoughts as soon as they occur. Before doing something, you should ask yourself what your purpose is. If your purpose is good, it doesn’t matter if you don’t do it well in the end, because your starting point is good. But if your starting point is selfish and you want to do evil to others, it doesn’t matter if you do it perfectly. Because of impure purposes, such people will sooner or later do things that harm others for their own purposes.

There is a story in the Four Lessons of Life. There was a man named Lü Wenyigong. He resigned from his position as prime minister and returned to his hometown. He was admired by people all over the country, like Mount Tai and the North Star. Once he met a villager who was drunk and lying in the middle of the road. Lü Gong's servant asked him to make way for Lü Gong. The man not only ignored him, but also spoke rudely to Lü Gong. Lü Gong was unmoved and said to the servant: "He is drunk, don't bother with him." So he took a detour. The next year, the man was sentenced to death and beheaded. Others said that he had offended Lü Gong and deserved the punishment, but Lü Gong regretted it very much and said: "If I had bothered with him a little at that time and sent him to the government for punishment, it would have been a small punishment but a big lesson. I just wanted to be kind at that time, but I didn't expect that I would cultivate his evil and lead to this." This is a person who does evil things with good intentions. This is the most fundamental way to distinguish a person's great goodness and great evil.

Six Paths of Reincarnation

In the past, if we found insects, our first reaction was to kill them. In the eyes of many people, insects and animals are not considered life, so they can be killed without hesitation. But here, we gradually understand some Buddhist principles: these small animals are also alive, they are the same as us. In Buddhism, there is a theory of six reincarnations: you are a human in this life, and you may be a small insect or an animal in the next life. And everyone who comes to you, whether it is a person, an animal, or even an object, has a great affinity with you. Maybe in a previous life, they were your relatives. Therefore, the Buddha taught us: "Everyone around you used to be your relatives. When they come to you in this life, you must treat them as relatives." So the children here, whenever they find insects, they consciously choose to catch them with a cup and take them out of the window to release them. Usually, we also go to release animals. Every time we see those creatures regain their freedom and avoid the pain of frying in oil, soup, and soup, everyone smiles from the bottom of their hearts.

In fact, this also explains why some parents do not quite understand some of my uncle's practices. My uncle is a Buddhist, and he believes that bringing a child to the path of faith in gods and Buddhas, and the child has the inner restraint of Buddhism, is much safer and more effective than relying on the blood relationship and protection of ordinary people such as parents in the world. Because my uncle looks at things from the perspective of the six reincarnations of gods and Buddhas, my uncle always treats us as his relatives at different times. From this perspective, it can be said that my uncle's care for each of our children is by no means inferior to, or even exceeds, the care our parents give us in this life. That is another level of care, care for the essence of life! Unfortunately, most of our parents are atheists, and they do not believe that there are purer and nobler relationships between people in this world that transcend blood ties. Sometimes they don't understand why we listen to my uncle so much. This is because of the care that is based on the fate that has been formed for tens of billions of years. How I wish some parents could understand this!

Honesty, Kindness and Today's Society

What makes me happier than my improved grades is that I can constantly improve my character flaws. This year I graduated from high school and left my uncle's place again. Although I am not sure whether I can maintain the status quo at my uncle's place, I am still full of confidence in the future. My life has completely changed, but this change is something that my parents cannot discover or understand. In their eyes, they only see my improved grades.

I am 18 years old this year, but deep down, I still feel like a 15 or 16 year old kid. My parents are always worried that I will stumble in the future because of my personality. In their opinion, there is nothing wrong with this chaotic world, it is just that I cannot adapt to this society. They think that my uncle has only made me very honest or stupid during these years, making it impossible for me to fit into this society in the future. What a wrong view.

I once wrote in my article "Why I Want to Study Abroad" published in the Feidu Education Student Works Showcase column: It's not the upbringing I received from my uncle that is wrong, it's this society that is wrong! I will never go along with this society.

My uncle often told us: "People with different ideals cannot work together!" It is my principle to not associate with those who have different ideals. Instead of talking about food and drink with classmates whose thinking level is far lower than mine, it is better to quietly work hard to improve my abilities. These classmates are not worthy of being my companions in the future life! I will never feel lonely because I have faith, because I have the works of saints, and I will have, and there will be more and more friends who truly know the right and wrong of the world to accompany me as I grow up!

Therefore, I am not worried about whether I can gain a foothold in this society. I have the qualities of kindness, sincerity and perseverance that are needed even in the world of five poisons and turbidity. I have the talents that this world and society need. Why can't this society have a place for me? Why must I rely on a smooth philosophy of doing things to gain a place for myself? I only need to do my job seriously, silently and steadily, and survival will not be difficult! What's more, the gods and Buddhas that have been deeply rooted in my heart will definitely protect me and let me walk safely through the road of life without being humble or arrogant!

Our uncle

Many parents have discovered a phenomenon and find it very strange: Why do the children in Feidu listen to their uncles so much, protect their uncles so much, and never allow their parents or outsiders to say anything bad about their uncles behind their backs? Why? The children here have never talked about this issue in their articles. Today I will talk about why from my perspective.

For me, and only I know, my uncle gave me a second life - the resurrection of my soul!

Uncle gave us faith, helped us establish life goals, improved our moral standards, gave us a correct standard for judging the world, gave us a correct worldview, gave us self-control that is unmatched by our peers, gave us an elegant temperament, made us neither humble nor overbearing when dealing with people, made us confident but not conceited, humble but not inferior, brave but not reckless, helped us master the learning methods that will benefit us for life, helped us develop good habits, helped us have a healthy body, and helped us have the skills to stand in this society: university majors, cooking, financial management, shopping, social skills, etc. We have so many enviable abilities. Are all these changes enough for us to respect and love our teacher - uncle! Are we enough to use our weak voices to maintain the educational reputation of uncle in front of parents and outsiders who do not understand uncle? I can't help crying when I write this. Not for me, but for our uncle who changed our lives.

Before I left Feidu Education, my uncle expressed his intention to give up this kind of education in front of us older children several times. We deeply understand. My uncle has devoted all his energy and efforts to the growth of our children, but he often does not get the understanding and support of some parents. In the conversations with parents, I rarely hear them praise my uncle and rarely thank him for changing our lives. In fact, I can understand that it is not that they are unwilling, but that they simply cannot see the changes we have undergone.

Anyone who is dissatisfied with the uncle, that is because they do not understand the uncle's education at all, that is because they are too far away from the uncle's realm! How should a person live in this world? Should a real person have faith and morality? What kind of faith and quality should he have? Such things are empty and meaningless in the eyes of many parents in China today. However, today I already know that these are the most precious things in life, and they are the priceless treasures of life! However, a treasure is a waste in the eyes of a person who does not know the treasure. For the person who brings him this treasure, it is naturally worthless in their eyes.

Uncle is such a treasure-giver who brings priceless treasures to today's parents, but he is misunderstood and even slandered by some parents. I can understand how Uncle's love and kindness for children are hurt. Even so, Uncle always teaches us to respect our parents and treat them well. He tells us that our parents are good people, but the environment they grew up in makes them ignorant or ignorant. This is why we don't have much in common with our parents, but we strive to respect and treat our parents well.

We, the older children, were deeply touched when we talked to them. When we treated our parents, we were obedient, humble, and other qualities that our uncles strictly required, which our peers could hardly do. However, our parents often turned a blind eye to this. They often saw our shortcomings and often used more unattainable or even unreasonable standards to demand us. So in their eyes, we were just like our uncles, people who would never meet their requirements.

What caused this situation? It was ignorance! It was not the right way of thinking to see the world. Uncle was an elder who led a group of young children in a society where everyone else was drunk but he was the only one awake. Occasionally, he would meet one or two like-minded people. After a brief intersection of life trajectories, he would once again go against the current and move forward alone. Sometimes when we older children saw Uncle's lonely and resolute back, we felt very sad. This is one of the reasons why we defended Uncle so much!

The second reason is that we can achieve the above changes because of the uncle's constant teaching and example, helping us to improve and perfect ourselves. The excellent qualities we have today are like the light that pierces the darkness, shining on our uncle, otherwise we would not have these excellent qualities.

A parent once asked her child bluntly: "We think Teacher Ding is just average, why do you admire and respect your uncle so much?" The child answered her mother: "Uncle is proud and respectable. He never gives up his principles for money, including the principles of educating children. Uncle is honest and trustworthy. He always keeps his promises to us and has never cheated us. Uncle treats children fairly and clearly distinguishes rewards and punishments. Uncle does not smoke, drink, or gamble. Uncle insists on being a vegetarian. These were all bad habits that Uncle had before, but he gave them up later. Uncle does not have any bad habits now. What kind of willpower does it take?"

"Uncle always does what he asks us to do first: every morning when we get up at 6:30, he will be waiting at the door to greet us; Uncle asks us to meditate for 2 hours, but he always exceeds our time, often 3 or 4 hours. You don't understand how much meditation tests a person's willpower and self-control. Uncle has self-control that we can't reach; Uncle has been getting up at 3 or 4 in the morning to exercise for decades, and he has to deal with many things before he can fall asleep at night after we all go to bed. He often only sleeps 2 or 3 hours at night, but Uncle always maintains strong energy during the day to answer our questions and educate us. This is difficult for ordinary people to understand and do."

"And uncle is very knowledgeable: whether it's math, physics, chemistry, English, or humanities, history, psychology, philosophy, he knows everything; uncle's strong insight and observation can always find and answer our questions in time, and resolve our doubts. There are many other advantages of uncle that I can't list here that deserve our admiration and respect. I would like to ask my parents, which of our parents can have all of these qualities of uncle or only a few of them?"

The child told us that her mother was so shocked that she couldn't even close her mouth. It should be said that the child had let her parents know what kind of teacher she was learning from. Unfortunately, after a while, the same doubts came back to her parents' minds, because her parents had already forgotten everything she had told them! Hey, this is what we are most dissatisfied with the uncle. Well, I have talked about some heavy topics, please forgive me if there are any offensive words to parents.

This is the end of my article. Finally, I want to tell everyone: This is the happiest time of my life. This is my favorite place. Everything that happened here is a precious memory that I will never forget in my life.

Teacher Ding's comments:

Another year, another article, this is the last paper Jingyi handed in to me. I am both satisfied and dissatisfied with this paper. But whether I am satisfied or dissatisfied, I understand very well that it was not easy for Jingyi to complete this paper. Due to some interference, the difficulty of completing this paper is much greater than the difficulty of all other papers written by other students of Feidu Education.

I have to say that Jingyi's article is more meticulous and pays more attention to the description of details. Of course, because of this, the article also reveals many details of the uncle's education. These are what I disagree with appearing in the article, because the more details are shown, the easier it is to be misunderstood.

However, the child's sincere words and true feelings still deeply moved me.

Jingyi is a very observant and considerate child, with quick reactions and careful thinking. So in the few years I have been with her, I often talk to her as a close friend regardless of age, so her understanding of her uncle is different from that of other children. I think her understanding of her uncle's educational ideas is far beyond her age.

Thank you Jingyi, thank you Jingyi for your understanding of your uncle’s education. Your uncle wishes Jingyi a bright and wonderful life ahead.

The children's article actually touches on some things that have long puzzled us parents. I think Jingyi's narration can help these parents to resolve their doubts and make them understand some of my education. So I will recommend this article to our parents. However, it is more than 20,000 words long. I hope that in today's world where people's hearts are more unstable, some parents can quietly read it.

I made some slight changes to this article while respecting the original text.